Supervised by Kara Grant, LPC-S, CDWF, SEP
As a therapist, I frequently hear from people about the experience of overwhelm in a world where access to one another is constantly at our fingertips. With this easy availability, it is important to understand the role that boundaries play in managing our stress and anxiety. Let’s consider what happens when we have ineffective boundaries in a variety of places. Typically, we see the experience of feeling frustrated, taken advantage of, overlooked, burned-out, and most importantly unable to connect to others or ourselves fully. With these negative outcomes, we are better able to understand the importance of being able to effectively set limits and uphold our ways of showing up in different spaces.
However, now the question is “How do I actually set effective boundaries?”
Before we can set boundaries, we have to understand the different types of boundaries and the purpose that each one holds:
Emotional: Protect your feelings from manipulation or guilt.
Time: Respect your own time and prevent overcommitment.
Physical: Maintain comfort around personal space and touch.
Digital: Limit screen time or online communication.
Mental: Respect differing opinions and ideas.
Each of these types of boundaries provides guidance for the areas of life where we most commonly see the need to uphold limits. To effectively set boundaries, we have to determine our own values and the parts of ourselves that need more protections. Once we determine these factors, we're better equipped to create boundaries that align with who we are and how we want to live. We also have to be willing to experience the discomfort that comes with communicating our own needs. It is important to remember that while others may resist, that doesn’t mean your boundary is wrong—holding your ground is part of the process.
When we begin implementing these changes, we begin to see the positive impact on all areas of ourselves. Specifically, we experience less worry, more peace, and overall balance with the many moving parts of life.
Setting boundaries to support your mental well-being is not a simple step by step process. If you or a loved one is needing the additional support to create more harmony within your life, we at Hays Behavioral Health Group are here to be with you on your journey.
Reach out today to schedule an appointment with one of our compassionate providers.